There are times that the perfect thing to say just pops into our head at the perfect moment. It’s like the muses have placed the words in our head and nodded sagely as you act like an oracle and bestow these morsels of wisdom on to your lucky listener.

The reason it feels like this is that the perfect thing coming to mind at the perfect time is so rare that it feels like divine intervention.

So, how do some people seem to know what to say and when to say it all the time?

Listening.

When you are listening fully to another person, you hear what is needed in that moment. There can be no internal monologue or thinking up a witty quip; it’s just you being 100% present for the other person.

Knowing the perfect thing to say isn’t about what’s in your head, it’s about what’s in theirs. When you connect wholehearted with a person, you will always know what to say and when to say it.