What is important to you? What makes you the unique and whole individual that you are? It’s not an easy question to answer. You really have to dig deep into what aspects of life are the ones you think: you know what, I agree or I feel comfortable because of x, y or z.
You could sit and write a list of words that you expect that people would like to hear are your values but does that mean you are being true to you? An easy way to look at what your values are is to think about the things that annoy you, your pet hates and then, think of the opposite: that may be one of your values.
Your boss is the type of individual who places no importance on the people who make up the company you work for: neither customers, nor employees. This really drives you crazy. What word would you put on that? Now, what is the opposite?
You are the type of person who will get up at 6 in the morning to go out and see a sunrise. You enjoy the solitude of the moment: just you and the colours of the dawn. How does that make you feel?
Friends know that when you say, ‘I’m going to get that job.’ Or ‘I’m going to pass that exam.’, that you will do it. There will be nothing that will stand in your way. You will stay up late, get up early and work, work, work. What word would you put on that?
Think of all those situations in your life, good or bad, and how they shape the person you are today. Today is the key word here because tomorrow may bring new values and you could move on from others. Values are fluid, like life. You have to go with the flow.
Make the list. Write it in your phone. Write it in a notebook. It’s the first step to finding out what makes you tick.
6 Steps to Finding Your Core Values
Recognising your core values is a step on the journey to a fulfilling, happy life. When you live your true values, you feel more contented and less stressed. How do you identify your values? Answer these questions to help you on your way to identifying your values today.
Think of these questions in the areas of family, home, work and relationships.
What defines your identity? Think of this in terms of how you see yourself and how others see you.
How would people describe you? If you’re feeling brave, ask them!
What motivates you in the different areas of your life?
What makes you happy? Why?
What situations makes you feel uncomfortable? Why?
What are the factors that contribute to your stress?
When you look at your answers to questions 1 to 4, some words and phrases will resonate with you. List them as these reflect your values today.
With questions 5 and 6, you are looking at things that are in conflict with your values. When you are uncomfortable and stressed, you may find yourself in a scenario that conflicts with your core values. How can you change the situation or factors?
Once you’ve identified your values, think again of the different areas of your life and see if you are living your values. What can you to do to reflect your core values in your day-to-day life?
Values are fluid so it’s a good idea to reflect on your values regularly so you can be sure you are living your values and to see which ones have changed.