What about me?

We have so many things that we have to do, should have done and need to get done.  Life brings so many demands but, at the end of the day, who are we doing it all for?

The answer has to be ourselves.

If we aren’t inspired by our actions, we will have so many ‘if onlys’, ‘should haves’ and ‘if I’d only had the time tos’ that we end up feeling only guilt and shame.

Our habit is to put the needs of others before our own.  We are driven by the others in our lives and their priorities.  So, we end up putting our own priorities at the bottom of our endless to-do lists.

However, when we focus on our own priorities, everybody wins.

We become happier, more fulfilled and more likely to want to help others rather than having a sense of obligation and duty.  

We all do this.  

The parent to the child.  The child to the parent.  The employee to the boss.  The advisor to the burdened.  The lover to the loved.  The list is endless. 

That list swirls around in our mind and we lose sight of who we are because now we are the list.  

We are not the list.  

Those things that you wake up and look forward to doing are an idea of your priorities and values.  The things you do without having to remind yourself to do them.  

Reading to your child.  Running on the beach.  Checking social media.  Listening to your favourite music as you dance around the kitchen.

Indulge in these things.  Take the time to enjoy the moment.

What can you do for yourself today?
 

Know Yourself: Empower Yourself

How much do you know about yourself?  How much time do you spend in a day looking at who you are and how you came to be this person?

When we embrace all the parts of who we are, we empower ourselves.  We take ownership of our good and bad sides, accept our past and move forward with our life.

There are so many self-help books, gurus and positive thinking apps to show us the ‘best’ path to take but only you know your journey.

What are the steps that you want to take next?  What do you want to do more?  What is your purpose?  How are you going to transform your life?

You are the only person who can intrinsically motivate that change.  That change comes about when you recognise that the events of your life are on the way and not in the way. 

The silver lining of every cloud is that you can learn from all the situations in your life no matter how terrible they may seem when you look back on them.  They shape who you are today; for better or for worse.

Knowing this empowers you. 

Dr John Demartiini has developed a method that helps us recognise that we own all the traits.  He teaches us that we can access our full potential by dissolving our resentments and infatuations and recognising that every event or experience is a step on our journey.

They are on the way, not in the way.